This blog is entirely based on questions I've received about the LGBT community:
Help! I don't know which label to identify with.
You don't need a label unless you really want one.
You are a person, a human being, not a label.
Pick the label that seems best for you.
But there is no obligation. Choosing a label isn't something you should feel forced to do.
Personally, I chose "bisexual" because I found out I was bi almost fifteen years ago,
and back then, that was the term people used for people like me.
I don't mind if people call me pansexual, though.
But I would ask people not to erase me or deny my identity.
It's fine to call me pan, but it's never okay to force a label on me against my will.
What is the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality?
To be honest, I do not know.
There is a wide misconception about bisexual people and how they supposedly only see two genders and only feel attraction for two genders.
I cannot speak for all bisexuals, but those I know (and that's about half the people in my life)
believe in more than two genders.
I know bisexual people who are cisgender, transgender, bigender, or nonbinary.
Most of them call themselves bisexual because that's the word they learned when they were trying to understand who they were.
The pain I went through to accept myself as bisexual.
Personally, it was a painful process for me to accept myself as queer.
It was painful to accept the label bisexual.
And I know, from talking to many bisexuals, that it was painful for many of us.
But the most painful part for me was to see my own community reject me
and use my label as a weapon against me.
It didn't happen often, but it did happen.
It didn't happen in person, but it is a bit of a recurrence online where cowards feel protected by their anonymous screens.
Actually, it happened only just last week when someone attacked me on Twitter,
falsely assuming I only believe in two genders.
A random person from my own community.
Someone who doesn't know anything about me (not even my gender, actually).
Someone who targetted me because it says "bi" on my profile.
The attacks from our LGBT community against bisexual people really, truly hurt us.
And I know that within the community, there are not just attacks against bisexuals.
Many transgender people also often undergo attacks from our own community.
Those attacks hurt us.
Those attacks break us apart.
Those attacks weaken our community.
But worst of all and most importantly,
those attacks can kill us!
Next time you attack someone from your own LGBT community, please, please, remember that many of us are suffering, many of us are in pain, many of us are merely surviving.
Your words could be the last straw pushing someone to complete despair and suicide.
Please be gentle within your own community.
This is ALL we have.
Each other is all we have.
No acceptance from my family.
In my case, being vilified by LGBT people hurts me because I already know my blood family will not accept me for who I am. And sadly, that is the case for many of us.
I live my life hiding who I truly am from those supposed to love me unconditionally.
That hurts. A lot.
But at least I have my LGBT family.
So to me, the LGBT family is my new family.
And when some people within that family attack me,
they take away the one safe place I have in this world.
If I choose to call myself bisexual,
it isn't to hurt other people.
It is because it hurt me so much and it was so excruciating to accept that label, to begin with,
that I am not mentally ready to part with it.
The truth is bisexuals will love people for who they are.
And based on my understanding, so will pansexuals.
I don't think there is much of a difference between the two.
And I definitely know there is no difference between the hearts beating in our chests and the blood running through our veins.
We are all humans.
To our LGBT community, please remain united, please help one another, please do not reject those in need and despair.
Because for many of us, this is the only family we have.
Thank you so much for reading!