Sunday, September 23, 2018

Bi visibility day!!!

Happy bi visibility day!!!

. Being bi doesn't mean we have had experiences with all genders. Just like how some people know they are straight but have never dated anyone. Lacking experience doesn't make us invalid. 

. Being bi doesn't mean we are sexual. Some of us are ace.

. Being in a gay relationship doesn't mean we are no longer bi.

. Being in a straight relationship doesn't mean we are no longer bi.

. Being married with kids doesn't mean the person is automatically straight.

. Discovering we are bi later on in life doesn't mean we are any less bi. 

. Being bi doesn't mean we are cheats.

. Being bi doesn't mean we like all genders equally. 

. Being bi doesn't mean we are all into threesomes. Though there is nothing wrong with liking threesomes. 

. Being bi doesn't mean we only believe in two genders or feel attraction for only two genders.

Have fun today, and be proud! :-)

Monday, September 10, 2018

How do you meet queer people?

Question from Tommy: If you are new to the environment and are shy, how do you go up and just talk to people?

This one is tough for me to answer because I am extremely shy as well. I also have social anxiety, which means that it can be hard for me to leave my house, and sometimes it can take up to two hours for me to talk myself into getting ready to go to an event (for example, Pride).

By "new to the environment," I'm assuming you mean "new to meeting queer people."

First, where do you meet other queers?

1 - The LGBT Center in your town. If you live in a place big enough, there is probably an LGBT Center there. They often organize events like book clubs, book signings, games, drag shows, art shows...ect. It's a good way to meet other people with similar interests or just have fun in general.

2 - Gay bars and gay clubs. 

3 - Concerts or shows of queer artists or allies. 

4 - Pride.

5 - Online.

How do you go up and talk to people?

Ah, well, that I do not know. 
Since I am really shy, I don't really go talk to people. 
I usually wait until they come up to me. 
That's easy for me, though, but only because I am goth. When you dress goth, you inevitably attract attention. 
People come up to you to comment on your clothes, ask where you bought your stuff, even take pictures...ect.

So I guess I would say, "wear something that interests you and that will make other people curious about you." 
It can be something like a LOTR t-shirt, a Harry Potter jacket, a Marvel t-shirt... Whatever you like.
There will be people asking, and those will be people with the same interests as yours. 
You can also go up to people and comment on the things they are wearing too. 
Or if you are in a bar or a club, you can comment on that and compare the place to other places you've been to. You can also ask if there are other similar places in town.

If you go to a concert and you know the crowd is queer or queer-friendly, wear your colors. Make yourself visible. It doesn't have to be too obvious. But other queers will notice you for sure. 

If you go to Pride, it's the same thing, it is good to stand out if you would like people to come to you. You can do that by wearing rainbow items. You can never have too many rainbows at Pride. You can wear your colors too if you're bi, pan, transgender, ect... 

I hope this helped a little bit, even though I am really not an expert on how to socialize.

Thank you for asking! :-)

Ask your questions at: Ask a bi

Thursday, September 6, 2018

Bisexuality is not real...

My therapist told me bisexuality doesn't exist...

Run! Find another therapist. Find a professional who is LGBT-friendly and who doesn't deny facts. 
Don't work with someone who believes in Neanderthal practices like conversion either. 
Those people don't deserve your time, your money, or your trust.

We are not unicorns. We do exist. You know you are real. Other bisexuals can confirm you are real.

You don't need to change. Society needs to change.

If your therapist denies reality and facts, then you need a new one... 
Bisexuality is not going anywhere. 

My friends told me it's a phase and bisexuality isn't a thing...

I have never encountered that issue myself, but I know it's recurrent out of the community and within the community. 

Next time you meet with your friends, wear a unicorn costume. ;-)

You know you are real. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. 
No one has the right or power to deny your identity or to tell you who you are or to change labels on you. 
You are who you are. If they don't like, it is their problem, not yours.

I have seen bisexuals deny the existence of pansexuality too, actually. 

The bottom line is our community needs to remain united. No matter what. 
Acceptance is key to keeping our rights and fighting for the rights of our brothers and sisters. 
Our community needs to stop fighting over petty issues. We have bigger problems out there.